If you feel your relationship is on the rocks and you are wondering, how to know if your boyfriend still loves you, them you might be trying to answer the million dollar question. When things are not going well in any relationship it is very easy to let all of our insecurities boil up to the surface and doubt your relationship.
One way to find the answer is to ask him straight out. Try to prepare for the possibility that he does not. If he answers you that he no longer loves you then ask him to explain himself. Some relationships just do not last and your’s could be one of them.
However, asking him might not get the answer you are seeking. In fact, men are often reluctant to tell a woman they love them. Instead pay attention to how he treats you. Men often show their emotions by what they do for their woman. Does he wash your car without you having to ask? Does he pick up a coffee for you when he goes for one for himself? Does he remember what you favorite food is or favorite flower? It is the little things that make a difference in a relationship.
Figure out what made you start feeling he didn’t love you. Is he spending more time away from you? Why? Is he working a lot or does he have family obligations that take up much of his time? I guess it doesn’t matter what the reasons are, the result is you feel lonesome and unloved.
It is obvious that if he still loves you, your relationship needs some serious time and attention to to have your feeling his love. The best way to begin is to learn to communicate better. Talk to him and see if he feels the same way. If he does then ask him if he is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship better.
Do not, under any circumstances make demands on him and do not let him make any demands on you. If you work together as a team your relationship will have a much better chance of survival. If he agrees that the relationship needs work then you can both go talk to someone who is experienced in the art of making a relationship stronger.
That may be your pastor, or a trusted teacher, or someone who has been through the same things you are going through now, or a professional counselor. Who you decide to talk to is up to you and your budget. You can even get advice online. Some of it is even free.
Before you decide to talk to anyone though, it would be a good idea to sit down together and figure out what the problems are. The best way to do this is to sit down when all is quiet and both take a sheet of paper and pen and make your own lists. When you are done go over them both together and see if things match up or if there are differing opinions as to what is not working.
Try to work things out together. If you can, great! If you can’t then it would be the time to speak to someone outside of the relationship and get some advice. After all of this work, if you are still wondering, if he still loves you then maybe the answer lies in your own insecurities and it is time to work on your self-esteem.