If you have been a dumped by your girlfriend, I’m sure you are wondering what in the heck you should do now to get over your ex. You are more than likely feeling anger, resentment and hurt over the situation. Since you are a guy, you probably don’t want anyone to know.
First off, that’s the wrong approach. There is nothing wrong with hurting when someone you love is no longer in your life.
I’m not saying you should break down and sob in front of your friends.
But unless your friends are complete jackasses they should be able to support you while you are going through this. If not, maybe your first step should be to get some new friends.
What Not to Do and What to Do!
Sometimes in life it is just as important to know what not to do as it is to know what to do. When you are trying to move past a tough breakup there are many things you just don’t want to do. In fact you will only keep your own hurt alive that much longer and you can hurt other people too.
For example, don’t hook up with other women. I know, this can help your wounded pride heal. It may take away a little of the hurt for a little while, but what about the other woman?
Does she really deserve to be treated like a replacement for your ex? No, it is best to just resist the urge to sleep with other women. At least for a little while until you can do it for the right reasons. This should not be to build up your own ego, ease your hurt, or get back at your ex.
Getting Drunk Won’t Help You Feel Better!
Another thing you need to avoid if you have been dumped by your girlfriend is the dumb macho posturing of going out and getting drunk. What does that really accomplish since it is such a juvenile thing to do.
If you want to go out with your friends and have some fun to keep your mind off of things, than go for it. But if you want to go out and drink yourself into a stupor either avoid doing that or at least stay home. This way you won’t make a fool of yourself and you can’t hurt anyone.
Instead of engaging in destructive behaviors when have been dumped by your girlfriend, try doing something positive. At least that won’t leave you feeling, and looking, like a jerk.
How about joining a gym and getting into better shape? Why not take a class or go back to school? Go visit your mother? It doesn’t matter what it is for you. As long as what ever activities you choose to participate in are healthy. This will eventually move you forward in life.
They can help you take your mind off your ex, and your anger, and concentrate on something that is worthwhile, a two for one!
Avoiding the destructive behaviors after a breakup and improving the man you are will enable you to move forward in a positive way. This will greatly increase the odds that your next relationship will work out better than your last one did.
So if you have been dumped take stock of the man you are now. Make improvements while you are healing over your breakup.